
“It’s early days, but this big-hearted novel about a family with a transgender child is in the lead for the most sensitively and sincerely told story of 2017…Frankel’s portrayal of even the most openhearted parents’ doubts and fears around a child’s gender identity elevates this novel.” And families with secrets don’t get to keep them forever. And it’s about the ways this is how it always is: Change is always hard and miraculous and hard again parenting is always a leap into the unknown with crossed fingers and full hearts children grow but not always according to plan. This Is How It Always Is is a novel about revelations, transformations, fairy tales, and family. But soon the entire family is keeping Claude’s secret. Kids go through phases, after all, and make-believe is fun. When he grows up, Claude says, he wants to be a girl. He wants to bring a purse to kindergarten. One day he puts on a dress and refuses to take it off.

But at least their large, loving, chaotic family knows what to expect.īut Claude is not like his brothers. When Rosie and Penn and their four boys welcome the newest member of their family, no one is surprised it’s another baby boy. This is how children change…and then change the world. This is how a family lives happily ever after…until happily ever after becomes complicated. This is how a family keeps a secret.and how that secret ends up keeping them.
